See the “other” new in every moment; only then can you create a new reality. As long as you expect the “other” – and yourself for that matter – to be the same every time you meet, you will recreate the past. Give each other a chance to grow.
And they have changed since then. To pretend that they and we are the same is a useful and convenient social convention which must sometimes be broken.
We must also remember that at every meeting we are meeting a stranger.”
― T.S. Eliot, The Cocktail Party