Judgement: The Blame Game

“Judgments are preconceived ideas and with that we determine our reality.” – Lao Tze

We humans are full of judgment — about self but mostly about others and the reality around us. We judge all the time, whether we are aware of it or not. We deem something right or wrong, beautiful or ugly, good or bad, merely because we are living in a dualistic reality.

The akashic mind cannot observe neutrally; it has to compare what is to what has come before in order to make sense of it. It only knows what it has been taught; it cannot create new concepts, new ideas.

Mind has a preconceived notion of how reality is supposed to work in this dimension, and – as Lao Tze said in the quote above – when we buy into that belief system, we don’t give our experiences the chance even to be new.

What we forget is that we create our reality. There is nothing outside of us that has not been created by us. Mostly, however, we create by default without using the building blocks of love, joy, freedom, truth, and life because we just don’t know any better, and in this way we keep living our past experiences over and over again.

Furthermore, our personalities are set up to react rather than respond.

In my view, reaction is always judgmental. Whatever we may encounter in our daily lives that is not to our liking – be it a person, a lack of finances, a place, the weather – it is always the result of the energetic space we are in. When we are in a loving space, people around us are friendly and the things we want to accomplish can be manifested effortlessly. One negative thought that we identify with, however, is enough to change reality around us in an instant – and we are back in the blame game.

We judge our creation instead of honoring it, and as such we don’t honor ourselves as the creator of our reality.

When we think like that, we allow ourselves to be the victim of our reality rather than taking charge of the way we want reality to see manifest around us.

Humans have about 30.000 thoughts a day, most of which come in on a subconscious level. About 82 to 90% of those thoughts are negative.

Also, the thoughts we are fed are not our own. There is absolutely no need to identify with any of them. It is the identification with those thoughts that makes us go into a negative spiral time and again.

It is no wonder, therefore, that we mostly create what we DON’T want. It is the way we have been programmed to think. Society does not teach us that we all are amazing creators. What we learn instead is to be good slaves to the system, helpless, powerless, and obedient.

Taking responsibility for our creations and dropping all judgment then is key if we want to create our reality in a conscious and empowered way. Blaming others for issues we find ourselves faced with or the way we feel will only create more of the same old same old. And I’m sure none of us truly want that.

Because our old neural pathways have been traveled by those thoughts so many millions of times It takes a lot of effort to always be aware of the thought fields we allow into our reality and to drop all judgment. We can only change them with conscious awareness on a consistent and continuous basis.

You won’t hear me say that this is easy, as mind constantly finds a way to distract us from our chosen vector, but it is definitely possible. The program is finite, and new neural pathways can be created.

It is up to us, the creator of our reality, to take charge of that which we want to see manifest. We can be the conscious creators we truly are underneath the fake personalities we pretend to be and step into a reality where the word “judgement” has been deleted out of our vocabulary.

Let’s create magic together!

Jasmine Martin


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3 thoughts on “Judgement: The Blame Game”

  1. Thanks Jasmine, for writing this article. It is so easy to fall for the trap of immediately having an opinion about a situation. And yes, all of it is judgement. It defines and therefore limits the situation at once. A great reminder. Much love!

  2. To the point and well-said, Jasmine <3 Your article goes beyond what most of us have been taught about how to be kind and loving, spiritual, etc. – for example, to follow the golden rule, turn the other cheek, when you point a finger at someone else, you are pointing at yourself, and so many more ways to "deal with" the thorny issue of judgment. You have gone straight to the heart of the matter: it is not just about practicing non-judgment to increase the likelihood of enjoying positive, loving, peaceful and joyful experiences; ALL judgments determine the reality we create and can only come from a pre-conceived perspective based on mind. Therefore, we are just repeating limitations and buying into illusions that are not real over and over, and for an extra measure of insanity, we often fool ourselves into believing that we are conscious and coming from the heart space which is impossible in the presence of judgment. Period. The personal ascension path is the way out and forward. Much love, Amber <3

  3. Judgement is a big one—and it can play out in subtle ways as well as those that are obvious to us if we care to look.

    If one has an achievement orientation, judgement seems to go part and parcel with this program.

    Judgement is a fast track into the rabbit hole of mental realms. And we can feel quite justified in our judgements. Can be tricky if we are not being vigilant observing ourselves.

    The heart does not judge. A situation can be neutrally evaluated and proper action taken without judging ourselves or others. A little bit of compassion can go a long way!

    Great article dear Jasmine—thank you! <3

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